5 Things I Would Tell My Younger Self Regarding Self-Esteem
By Ashley M Moss
Growing up, I never had high levels of self-esteem and confidence. Yet, as an adult now, I’ve got enough to spread around. The funny thing is it wasn’t until my late teens and early twenties that began to develop self-esteem. I was a middle child, which made things worse for my low self-esteem levels. I was also bullied as a child because of my quirks by family members and classmates alike. I never valued myself before my early twenties, because I was looking for other people to validate and celebrate me first. I was reminded of my early childhood struggles with self-esteem recently, when I could see the old me in one of my students.
I was encouraged and inspired to not only go back in time and give tidbits of advice to my younger self, but also mentor students I encounter every day by this revelation. Thus, this article is for anyone struggling with or who has ever struggled with low self-esteem. Here are five things I’d like to share with you about having self-esteem.
1. Slow down, and stop worrying so much.
Life isn’t a race. It’s a journey, and it’s meant to be enjoyed, not rushed through. Celebrate previous accomplishments before setting new goals for yourself. Don’t rush through life. Worry produces anxiety and stress. It’s not worth it. Let go of worry, and go with the flow more in life.
2. Celebrate yourself.
Instead of being so hard on yourself, try liking yourself. Try loving yourself. You have a purpose in this world. Celebrate that purpose. Be your own motivator and supporter, if no one else will be.
3. Stop wishing all the popular kids and people liked you.
There’s a reason they don’t like you, and there’s a reason you don’t fit in with them. Embrace it. If they don’t and can’t appreciate all of the wonderful things that you are, they don’t deserve to be in your life.
4. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Be yourself, and do it unapologetically. You don’t have to be the most popular person, a supermodel, or celebrity to celebrate your beauty and feel beautiful. You’re rare. Act and live as such. You can have a face full of pimples, and could be having a bad hair day. However, as long as you look in the mirror and like what you see, no one else’s opinion matters.
5. Embrace your weirdness and quirks.
No, you’re not alone, and you don’t have an incurable life-altering condition. You’re unique and special. Your weirdness and quirks are what make you remarkable. So, always celebrate them, and question anyone who tells you to do otherwise.
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